There is no blow as hard as accepting that someone you love so dearly is no more. Though I have heard it said that if you love someone you have to let them go. Well, easier said than done is the best saying during such a sorrowful scenario. Death is a harsh reality and a cruel fact at the same time. Not to mention that even young and innocent children have to witness this sad period. The pain associated with the loss of loved one is very sharp. It lenders the deceased family helpless and with no energy, that is where funeral insurance comes into play as it caters for the expenses and compensates the family depending on the plan.
Planning for a funeral is a tedious exercise especially to the affected family and having an insurance plan is a benefit to the family. It gets even tougher when trying to make them understand that they will not see the person in question ever again in their lives.
The emotional side of it
Naturally, the emotional side happens to be the most affected in all of our beings. We sometimes allow our emotions get the best of us, so we succumb to its adverse effects. Sometimes it is even difficult to understand ourselves because our emotions keep changing throughout the entire mourning period. At one point, we are sad, the next minute we are angry, the next we are remorseful, and the cycle keeps going on and on.
How to deal with emotions
It can prove to be much tougher for us than we can handle but it is possible to control ourselves during these trying times. We can first begin by accepting the harsh reality that has dawned on us. The ones we love are no longer with us in the physical realm. They have been whisked away from our midst into another time and place even without warning. The sooner we believe that they are gone, the easier it will be for us to adapt to the new surrounding and start afresh without them.
How to cope when at the funeral
During the funeral arrangement period, things will slightly and temporarily begin to flow very smoothly, until the material day of the funeral. This is where all the memories you shared with your loved one will automatically begin to flash in your mind like that of a camera. As the enlarged photos are being securely placed next to the coffin, you find tears flowing down your cheeks involuntarily, and you are not in the position to try and hold them back. Instead, you work harder to shed some more because you feel it is the only therapeutic way to lessen your sadness even just a little bit. Just let your tears flow freely, and if possible, offer a shoulder to the one sitting next to you. As the session goes on, you realize they need a shoulder to cry on more than you thought you did.
What to do after the burial
The funeral service is over, and it is time to escort the coffin to the burial site. Your body begins to feel weaker as you approach the grave site, but you press on. You try to be strong for those looking up to you for consolation. The priest says a word to the soul of the departed and it’s time to pray. Here’s the toughest part, you throw dust at the coffin and finally you lay the wreath on the grave. Don’t go home and stay in your company, hold a memorial in which you remember the happy times you had with your loved one.